Wednesday, May 6, 2015

Mom to Mom

Thinking back to BM (before mom-hood) I remember having so many opinions and ideas on what I thought moms should be like. I thought there was the 'right' and 'wrong' way to do things and I can say with confidence that I now truly understand what it is to be a Mom, and boy was I wrong

What I have learned is that there is not a right way or a wrong way, there is only a way that works for you - and no two ways are the same. 

One thing that I come across so often is moms telling other moms how to parent, what to do with their children, and critiquing and criticizing their peers if they do not fall in line with the latest trends and practices on how to parent. I read an article recently on how difficult moms are on other moms and it really struck a cord with me. I made a choice and a stance after reading that article to never judge another mom on her choices for her children, because they are exactly that - her choices.

As moms, we all try to do what is best for our children and we kill ourselves to make the best decisions for them. I do not think any mom out there knows all of the correct ways to parenting and I definitely do not think any mom out there is perfect, including myself. So who am I to judge another woman on her choices on how to raise her family?

As moms, we put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect, to create a perfect life for our children and to pretend to live in a story book created and crafted to a T straight from Pinterest. But, this just isn't reality. We all mess up, we all fall, but what makes us even more strong as humans, is we figure out a way to pick ourselves and our families back up again and continue to push forward. So you didn't swaddle your infant perfectly for 6 months? You use formula and don't nurse? That is ok!!

 Because, you see, there is always good reason for the choices we make and those reasons are usually for things out of our control, and as a mom, finding these little details out about other moms doesn't give me any clout to judge them, whether I agree with or have done things the same as them or not. 

What do I know? I know that we all do our best. We all try our best to give our children everything we can, we try our best to help them live in a loving environment where they feel safe and taken care of, and we all do everything in our power to make and provide everything we feel in our hearts to be what is the best for them; and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. 

So, from one mom to another, I think you are beautiful. 
I think you are doing a great job.  
I appreciate and respect you for all of your hard work and strength. 

This isn't an easy job and there are no rules, but what you have from this mom is support and encouragement and a vow to not judge others for what they do or don't do similar to me. 

With love,

shop this look:
Skirt from Nordstrom Rack, similar skirts here and here 
on my wish list - here
White tank (not pictured)
ShoeMint nude heels, similar herehere and here

on Rajan:
Burberry baby (on sale!)